Fascinating is the realisation that as you grow older, so does your mind. It releases old beliefs as it matures. And immediately, it seems, nothing is so powerful that it destroys your sense of being.
Nothing.
I remember being five and feeling like a tiny fish in an enormous sea filled with huge school of grouper. I felt overwhelmed until I reached grade five. By grade six I was a grouper who watched the little ones dip their toes into the academic ocean on their first day of school.
It was a cruel realisation that knocked me for six when I reached high school. I was once again the tiny fish with no particular desire to repeat my first six years. I did, however, and learned many a frightful lesson along the way.
But there was one moment when everything changed. I was heading toward adulthood, not quite eighteen. It was a realisation that I had the right to my own self-esteem. Equipped with such a beast, how was one able to draw it out of its protective cave and ask it to face the world?
There were so many other people in school who knew how to do it, yet asking them to show me was beyond my ken. I could not conjure the guts to ask and no, I had no idea my inner beliefs were sabotaging my future.
And then, it happened. As though I had flicked my own switch, I saw my reflection in the mirror one morning. Oh, I’d seen myself every morning for the past seventeen years. Yet this particular morning was different. I saw a real person staring back at me. Eyes pleading, a mouth like a thin straight line across the horizon upon the ocean. This reflection was bleak.
How could I harness my self-esteem and give it a workout? The eyes staring back at me were the eyes of a young woman who already knew the answer. Beyond those eyes was a mind that inherently knew I had already used my self-esteem. I had swept off the dust and had given it an airing before trying it on. Instinctively I knew this was the direction I’d been looking for since I was five.
My future self had already been where I was heading.
Befriend Your Future Self
If there is one thing I would have given my eye teeth for when I was five going on six, it was to know my future self. Or at least be privy to a glimpse of her intentions.
Every day brought me a new fear. Fed by an overcharged imagination, each afternoon, I wondered what tomorrow would bring. Impending was more of that I had experienced the day before. I was not aware that what I thought about I would bring about.
And little did I know my future self owned her intention. In fact, her intention was and still is boundless.
Your Future Self Is Equipped with Self-Esteem
It is a liberating journey. The discovery of what you’re capable of is the introduction of a lifetime of freedom. And the way to discover it is to get to know your future self.
Knowing who you are and what your direction is, is the pathway to self-esteem.
The self that lives beyond you is the you she constantly aspires to be. She’s paving the way to make it easier. She already knows you’re lacking confidence and her goal is to show you how to meet and maintain it.
Steps to Attain Your Confidence
Stand before a full-length mirror and as you assess yourself, become aware of self-judgement. You will notice it as you criticise yourself. In fact, you may find you’ll be focusing on undesired flaws that can no longer remain unseen. Yet, those ‘flaws’ are there for a good reason.
This is you, you’re looking at. This is the vessel you occupy and it’s talking to you.
In fact, your body is a mirror of your thoughts. Every single cell within has heard what you’re thinking. And every one of them is reflecting your inner mind.
Changes Are Afoot But Only If You Allow Them
Affirmations can be your best friend, aside from your future self. In fact, the two go together like a knife and fork. One is not complete without the other. Yet, you may find that some areas of your intentions become difficult to manage.
Everything seems to be going south or it appears to be worsening. That’s a good thing. It is a sign that you’re on track and the situation is beginning to shift.
Affirmations assert what you want to become and your future self will show you how to absorb them.
As you repeat a series of words that construct exactly what you want to be, do or have, you will begin to notice changes.
The changes will be subtle rather like whispers but the results you’re looking for will be there for you. As you continue with your routine time, will become meaningless. You’ll discover it doesn’t take long at all to make a change.
Attaining Your Self-Esteem Now and Forever
Making a statement or an affirmation in the present tense is the weapon you wield.
You desire confidence and so the words you speak and the thoughts you think from now on will confirm your wish.
An abundant selection of affirmations is available to you. They will send you hurtling toward confidence and a life of design rather than default. Some affirmations that will reap results are:
- I am my own person
- I am overflowing with love
- I am a deserving human being
- I am filled with confidence
- I am happy and joyous
- I am grateful I have enough
- I am always aware of my thoughts
Notice how each affirmation begins with “I am”. “I am” are two of the most powerful words you could ever say. The subconscious mind does not acknowledge past, present or future yet it reacts favourably to words that follow “I am”.
Delivered will be whatever you insert after the two most powerful words you could utter.
Let’s regress to the past for a moment.
Let’s assume because I don’t know your past, that you lost your love for yourself. Let’s also assume there was even less love expressed throughout your childhood. While we’re at it, we’ll throw in a dose of a lack of encouragement to feel good about yourself.
Now that we’ve wrapped the entire package, we can now see why we don’t enjoy a whole lot of self-esteem. What occurred throughout those growing years was the constant criticism of other people. And that is what has become second nature to you.
It is vital that you begin this new phase of your life with a generous dose of love for yourself. The next step is approval. Approve of yourself and release any guilt you may be carrying. It will never serve you, so let it go.
In my eBook I am preparing, Boundless Intentions, its pages serve to remind you that you have a soul. You have a right to belong on this gorgeous blue planet. You also have the right to feel as confident as you were meant to feel when you were created.
There’ll be nothing in this book that you don’t already inherently know. There’ll be nothing on the pages that is going to spring into your awareness and say “Here I am! Do you believe me now?”
What will appear time and again are reminders. They’ll tell you, You Are Deserving. They’ll tell you, You Have the Power to Create, to Manifest and Enjoy Everything Life Hands to You. And you’ll be reminded that your thoughts are what creates your future just as they have created your past.
I smile at people all the time now. The best result I’ve ever got is about 80% of smiles returned. The other 20%? They’re still learning how.